Yes, we must listen to all ideas and views with charity, but as disciples, who do we say that he is? Although you and I understand the following with some difference, we both are grounded in this confession of Peter, that Christ is indeed the Messiah, the Son of the Living God.
Matthew 16 (my emphasis): http://www.usccb.org/bible/matthew/16
When Jesus went into the region of Caesarea Philippi* he asked his disciples, “Who do people say that the Son of Man is?” 14i They replied, “Some say John the Baptist,* others Elijah, still others Jeremiah or one of the prophets.” 15He said to them, “But who do you say that I am?” 16* j Simon Peter said in reply, “You are the Messiah, the Son of the living God.” 17Jesus said to him in reply, “Blessed are you, Simon son of Jonah. For flesh and blood* has not revealed this to you, but my heavenly Father. 18k And so I say to you, you are Peter, and upon this rock I will build my church,* and the gates of the netherworld shall not prevail against it. 19l I will give you the keys to the kingdom of heaven.* Whatever you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven; and whatever you loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven.” 20* m Then he strictly ordered his disciples to tell no one that he was the Messiah.
Certainly, as Christians we confess that Jesus is the Son of God. As biblical exegetes we lay that aside (for a time) to see what the Bible really says about Jesus as "Son of God."
For instance, Matthew 16:16 has Peter declare, as you note: σὺ εἶ ὁ Χριστὸς ὁ υἱὸς τοῦ θεοῦ τοῦ ζῶντος. ("You are the Christ the son of the living God.")
However, Mark 8:29 Peter's confession is the shorter: σὺ εἶ ὁ Χριστός. ("You are the Christ.")
Luke 9:20 has Peter say: τὸν Χριστὸν τοῦ θεοῦ. ("The Christ of God.")
John 6:69 has Peter say: ὁ ἅγιος τοῦ θεοῦ. ("The holy one of God.")
In Thomas 13 Peter confesses: "You are like a righteous angel."
We can wonder if "The Son of God" was a confession of Matthew's community at that time rather than one held by the whole church.
Tracing the development of "Son of God" language for Jesus can lead to conclusions that it appears are in this following book (and description) I found on Amazon:
How Jesus Became God: The Exaltation of a Jewish Preacher from GalileeNew York Times bestselling author and Bible expert Bart Ehrman reveals how Jesus’s divinity became dogma in the first few centuries of the early church.
The claim at the heart of the Christian faith is that Jesus of Nazareth was, and is, God. But this is not what the original disciples believed during Jesus’s lifetime—and it is not what Jesus claimed about himself. How Jesus Became God tells the story of an idea that shaped Christianity, and of the evolution of a belief that looked very different in the fourth century than it did in the first.
A master explainer of Christian history, texts, and traditions, Ehrman reveals how an apocalyptic prophet from the backwaters of rural Galilee crucified for crimes against the state came to be thought of as equal with the one God Almighty, Creator of all things. But how did he move from being a Jewish prophet to being God? In a book that took eight years to research and write, Ehrman sketches Jesus’s transformation from a human prophet to the Son of God exalted to divine status at his resurrection. Only when some of Jesus’s followers had visions of him after his death—alive again—did anyone come to think that he, the prophet from Galilee, had become God. And what they meant by that was not at all what people mean today.
Written for secular historians of religion and believers alike, How Jesus Became God will engage anyone interested in the historical developments that led to the affirmation at the heart of Christianity: Jesus was, and is, God.I also came across this title:
How God Became Jesus: The Real Origins of Belief in Jesus' Divine Nature---A Response to Bart D. Ehrman.In his recent book How Jesus Became God: The Exaltation of a Jewish Preacher From Galilee historian Bart Ehrman explores a claim that resides at the heart of the Christian faith― that Jesus of Nazareth was, and is, God. According to Ehrman, though, this is not what the earliest disciples believed, nor what Jesus claimed about himself.
The first response book to this latest challenge to Christianity from Ehrman, How God Became Jesus features the work of five internationally recognized biblical scholars. While subjecting his claims to critical scrutiny, they offer a better, historically informed account of why the Galilean preacher from Nazareth came to be hailed as “the Lord Jesus Christ.” Namely, they contend, the exalted place of Jesus in belief and worship is clearly evident in the earliest Christian sources, shortly following his death, and was not simply the invention of the church centuries later.I suggested in a recently church newsletter article that asking, "Is Jesus God?" is the wrong question. How could a human being become something greater than a human being? Rather, a better question, and one that I believe the early church confessed was, "Is God Jesus?" Could the almighty God lower himself to become a human being? When we read "The Word became flesh" and the hymn in Philippians 2, they are about God becoming human.
In addition, there is a question of what does it mean to say that someone is "a/the son(s) of"? "sons of God" is a phrase used in Matthew 5:19; Luke 20:36; Romans 8:14, 19; Galatians 3:26. We, the believers, are called "Sons of God." Does Scriptures use that phrase to make us the same as Jesus as "Son of God," or does "son" take on a different meaning depending on the context?