Dear brothers and sisters, there is a simple solution to all of this. When I did more youth work I would set up scenarios, and they almost always degenerated to hostile positions. In fact, when I stepped in to take part in the scenario, the youth did not know how to handle the situation!
Somehow we became creatures who like conflict. I don't know why, but here is my solution. When you read a post (no matter who it's from), do 3 things:
1) Realize that no one is trying to take away your birthday....it's an opinion for cryin' out loud.
2) If you must, type a response and vent.....then
3) Read your response a couple of times, and truly ask if your response is appropriate, or just adds fuel to the fire.
There, problem solved.
There are lots of times when I have typed responses and deleted them. Why, because they would not positively add to the discussion. Oh, sometimes a little snark might seep through, but not often, and not very venomous, but I try.
Also, one final thing, lest any of us feel so puffed up, realize that we are just small players in a much bigger scheme, and that we are all God's children and bound servants to His word.
Now, let us all offer the sign of our Lord's peace.....Peace be with you!
Tom