Quote from: Rob Morris on February 01, 2024, 11:05:18 AMAs this conversation follows its expected contours, I will simply point out: the value of the conversation hinges on whether one believes that homosexual sex is, in fact, sinful. I note that the disagreement on this board entirely falls between those who would answer that question in the affirmative and those who would answer that question in the negative.
What makes the article interesting is that both Gagnon and Begg agree that homosexual sex is sinful. The conflict lies in whether one who believes that homosexual sex is sinful can in good conscience, attend a homosexual wedding. I honestly don't know how the participation that Begg encourages could be seen as anything other than endorsement.
"I believe your marriage would be a sin, but I will celebrate it when you do it," seems an inherently contradictory position to me.
What I see as unaddressed is the assumption that if one does not attend another's wedding, then the couple is justified in believing the non-attender to be hateful, judgmental, etc. To me, this is not a relationship, but a hostage situation. I am sure that we have all been to weddings, or officiated at weddings, where certain loved ones were unable to attend because of business commitments or health challenges, or travel restrictions... but if yhe reason for non-attendance is a moral objection, it is handled very differently. I find that an interesting fact.
I had this arise recently when a little one in my congregation was invited by her older cousin (without her parents' knowledge) to be a flower girl at the older cousin's lesbian wedding ceremony. To those of you who don't see homosexual sex as sinful, this presents no challenge whatsoever. To those of us who do, what response would you have recommended?
I don't know that I would vocalize the response directly to the person in exactly this way, but: I would not attend, say, a birthday party for a good male friend that was being held at a strip club. And I darn sure wouldn't take a young child to that party, either. (And I fully realize that this is easy for me to say, and much harder to do...but if offense is taken, then so be it. There is nothing whatsoever unloving about saying, in a kind manner, "No, I just can't do that.")