It was interesting at Adult Catechism the other night. A student of Methodist background said he noticed in the assigned readings from the Small Catechism with Explanation that men rather than women are called to be pastors. He wondered if that was just at Emmanuel or generally in the Lutheran Church. I explained the history, referred to a few passages, told him about my sister who is in deaconess ministry, and discussed where we have boundaries at Emmanuel. The class didn't bat an eye.
The conservative pastor at the LCMS congregation in a town where I served; (he would not let women vote in his congregation;) explained the LCMS (and his position, which he believed were the same as the LCMS), in his new member classes. My predecessor called him, "My best evangelist." He, and I, had many new comers to our town transfer from LCMS congregations to our LCA/ELCA congregation because they wouldn't agree with what that pastor was trying to teach them. He also told that them if they didn't agree with everything he taught, they shouldn't join. I remember noting at one point that over half of my congregation council were formerly LCMS members.
Over the years I've received a number of new members from other churches, including ELCA, UMC, and TEC who came because of decisions made by the denomination that they could not stomach and were looking for a more traditionally minded church. It happens.
Pastoral incompetence, stridency, and obnoxiousness can happen anywhere on the theological of social spectrum. If our conservativeness in the LCMS are driving so many people from our pews to those of the ELCA, then you must be growing mightily, right?!? Or at least your membership/attendance must be declining much slower than the LCMS, right?!?
Ironically, my congregation chose not to join the ELCA merger in the 1980s. So the ELCA lost the entire congregation at that time. In the 1990s dozens of members left the ELCA congregation in Grove City and came to Emmanuel. (About 50 settled here.) Even more ironically, the Grove City congregation they left has now left the ELCA and joined the NALC! The more recent people coming to us are weary Methodists who can't stand the sexuality wars tearing apart their congregations. So people have come to Emmanuel seeking refuge for years and in large numbers.
Tragically, today I learned that the diocese is planning to close another Roman Catholic congregation in the South End by merging it with one north of us. Emmanuel is one of a few, surviving, active congregations in the South End. (There are no ELCA congregations here, only our independent congregation,
an LCMS congregation and---get this---a WELS congregation supporting a school.) So, the traditional and conservative message, kindly delivered, is well received even in urban ministry.