What one personally believes doesn't have to change. They can and should express their opinion in congregational meetings. The ELCA does not insist that all its members or even all its clergy have to agree with our Social Statements.
Pr. Stoffregen, you know as well as I that all this matters very little. "What one personally believes doesn't have to change," because in the ELCA, "what one personally believes" is relegated to the sphere of private opinion, while what informs and controls the life of the community is the public policy of the institution. As long as dissent is kept private, the ELCA can easily tolerate it. Toleration under those conditions is no problem. But if dissent tries to interfere with institutional policy, as that policy is articulated by those with institutional power, toleration swiftly evaporates.
It seems that, these days, the motto of the ELCA is something akin to "You can think whatever you want, but we'll do things my way." I wonder where the ELCA might have learned that?
The chair of the call committee of the congregation I retired from said that they were asked if the congregation would be open to a lgbt pastor. They didn't think so. There were no repercussions over that answer. I would think that bishops and staff would rather have congregations be honest up front rather than have to deal with major problems later.
I wonder what you mean by "what informs and controls the life of the community is the public policy of the institution." I have not found that the public policies of the ELCA informed and controlled the life of the congregation. Usually the opposite was the case. The congregation was the institution in control. I, as the pastor, (and representing the synod and churchwide,) often had little say about what controlled the life of the congregation. I could nudge the congregational leadership in a direction, but control them? Not at all.
I attended nearly every synod assembly and bishop's convos in the synods where I was serving. (There have been four of them.) I've attended four churchwide assemblies - two as a volunteer, one as a visitor, and one as a voting member. I tried to keep myself informed of what was going on in the "institution(s)" of our churchwide and synod structure. For the most part, decisions made at those levels had very little effect on what happened in the congregation. Even back in 1987 when there was the vote for the new church, which caused major institutional changes, I opined that for most of the people in pews, about the only difference they would notice would be a new magazine.
Your situation might be different than what experienced over 43 years of ministry in congregations.